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9 Ways to Stop Feeling So Lonely and Isolated

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Loneliness is a surprisingly common issue in our culture today.

According to this new study, 3 out of every 5 Americans are lonely! The survey stated that “loneliness is now at epidemic levels.”

It is very possible that you could be one of these lonely people.

Do you feel left out or misunderstood?

Perhaps you lack good-quality friends and relationships? 

Maybe you are surrounded by people who appear to be having a happy and fulfilling life! But you feel disconnected, hollow, and deeply alone. 

Perhaps your loneliness is rooted in past emotional and psychological trauma. (In this case, the best thing you can do is see a professional mental health counselor/therapist.)

If you are like most people, you’ve become really good at putting up a happy facade! Just know you are not alone in this. Remember, over 50% of Americans say they suffer from loneliness.

Regardless of what is causing this unhappy season of your life, there is a solution.

We serve a mighty God who can bring change into your life like no one else! We are blessed to live in the day of modern medicine, where your mental and physical health is better understood and taken seriously!

Below are 9 tips to help you to stop feeling so lonely and isolated.

1.) Learn a new skill or take a class/course

What is something you’ve always been interested in doing/learning, but never got around to?

Nutrition, yoga, public speaking, cooking, music, managing your personal finances, skincare, another language, dance, fitness, basic coding/programming, animal training, DIY projects, painting, etc. 

Skies the limits!

Studies have been done on this topic for years. Learning new skills can improve your mental wellbeing by making you feel more connected with others, boost your self-confidence, and give you a sense of purpose.

God created our minds to crave learning! Continued learning is highly encouraged if you want to keep an active and healthy mind.

2.) Tell Your trusted friend(s)/family how you feel

You should never feel embarrassed or ashamed to admit that you feel lonely or isolated.

The Bible is full of examples of people who wept and cried out to God because they felt so alone!

Psalm 25: 16-17 “Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted. The troubles of my heart are enlarged; bring me out of my distresses.”

It’s easy to feel like you’re the only one who struggles with lonliness. But once you open up about yours, you will find that many others feel the exact same way!

This is one reason it is so important to reach out for a “sense of community” and “real connection” with your friends/family.

A weekly phone call, inviting someone over to your home, meeting up for a coffee date, or going for a walk together can really help you get out of your “lonely slump”.

3.) Take Some Time Away From Social Media

You have hundreds (or thousands) of social media “friends”, but you feel deeply lonely.

The funny thing is, social media was created to make us feel more connected to each other! 

So why does it actually have the opposite effect on us?

As humans, we were created to thrive with real connectivity with others.

Unfortunately, the majority of your social media interactions are not real connectivity. Most people like a post or a picture without even reading it and appreciating it.  

Sitting in your room, scrolling through social media will actually make you feel much lonelier!

You see the “highlight reel” of everyone else’s life and either wish you were with them or wish your life was more like them.

Take some time away from social media. Instead, use this time to read the Bible or read some inspiring, soul-seaching books. (Here is a list of amazing Christian books.)

You may struggle with feeling “disconnected” for the first week or two, but your mental clarity will improve! You will actually feel more creative, happy, inspired.

Related Article: 9 Ways to Stop Wasting Time on Social Media

4.) Get out of your house

Do you ever feel like the 4 walls of your home are closing in around you?

But it’s so convenient and easy to just stay inside where you are!

When is the last time you decided to go outside and enjoy nature, go to a community event, attend a church function, accept an invitation to a group gathering, or invited someone out for coffee/dessert? 

When you feel alone, you have to take it into your own hands to go out and connect with other people and get some fresh air.

You can do this all by yourself and you will still feel better once you get out, have a little fun, and only then go back home.

5.) Learn to enjoy your alone time

There is a very big difference between being alone and feeling lonely.

Although God didn’t create us to spend our lives alone, He did create us with the ability (and desire) to spend some time by ourselves for restoration and much-needed privacy. 

To learn to enjoy your alone time, you really have to sit back and examine yourself.

What makes you feel happy? What makes you feel contented and accomplished?

If you wait around for someone else to fill your life with these feelings, you will probably be deeply disappointed!

Do you love a certain type of music? (Not a style that depresses you or makes you feel sad. Choose a style that makes you feel peaceful or happy.)

When you’re home, turn on some music. Read a book, workout, give yourself a spa treatment, pray, clean, organize, and do something else that makes you feel productive/fulfilled. 

Once you find something that makes you enjoy being alone (or that you look forward to), make them a daily/weekly thing. (See #1 for more suggestions.)

Related Article: 9 Successful Habits of all Happy Christian Women

6.) Invest Your Time In Others – Volunteer

Volunteering is surprisingly beneficial to your overall health and happiness.

It can help you connect with other people, find friends, learn new skills, and feel valued. As a result, this leaves you feeling less stressed, less lonely, and more fulfilled. 

The Bible instructs us over and over again about the value of giving of ourselves to others – expecting nothing in return!

Acts 20:35 “In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.”

Isaiah 58:10 “If you pour yourself out for the hungry and satisfy the desire of the afflicted, then shall your light rise in the darkness and your gloom be as the noonday.”

Titus 3:14 “And let our people learn to devote themselves to good works, so as to help cases of urgent need, and not be unfruitful.”

There are always opportunities to volunteer in your area!

Whether you volunteer at your church, a local charity, or a community event – volunteering is important!

It will fill you with a God-given sense of fulfillment – something that will help combat loneliness.

7.) Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Without even realizing it, we start to compare or lives, bodies, belongings, abilities, kids, relationships, etc.

Comparison leaves will always leave you feeling self-conscious, inadequate, lonely, resentful, and deeply unhappy. 

As stated above, social media plays a hugely detrimental role in this. You see everyone’s “highlight reel” and wonder why you can’t be as happy, fulfilled, wealthy, or successful as them.

This inadequacy leaves you feeling like you have nothing to gain and nothing to offer.

Comparison makes you your own worst enemy!

As a Christian, you believe God created you different than anyone else.

He created you with your own unique personality, character traits, body type, capabilities, talents, and limitations! 

Start being intentionally grateful for the life God gave you.

This article is a great place to start: 7 Tips to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

8.) Don’t Allow Yourself To Wallow in Pity

In some cases, loneliness can be the result of having a long, self-inflicted pity party!

Allowing yourself to have the “victim mentality” will make you an unpleasant person to be around.

This will effect your personal and social life.

Rise above it! Don’t allow yourself to stay in this dark space for very long. (If necessary, follow the advice from #9!)

Life will be full of unfair circumstances. People will disappoint you and you will lose opportunities.

Never forget that you have a source of strength and comfort that is always with you! Your relationship with Christ is vitally important in difficult periods of life.

It’s okay to have a moment of self-doubt, worry, fear, disappointment, and regret. But it is not OK to allow this to defeat you in the long-term.

Look up!

Matthew 11:28-30 “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

9.) Book a Session With a Therapist

It’s just like making a doctor’s appointment! Your mental health is equally as important as your mental health.

You should never feel ashamed of needing or wanting to see a therapist.

It is easy to brush off feelings of anxiety, depression, unworthiness, and grief with simply “feeling lonely.”

Pray and ask God for wisdom. Specifically ask Him for a solution to your suffering.

However, seeking professional help isn’t something you should feel is un-biblical or unnecessary!

Therapists are trained to identify signs of different mental health issues (like loneliness, depression, anxiety, emotional trauma, etc) and help you work through them.

Talking to someone knowledgeable can help you address your current feelings and unexpressed emotions that you have unknowingly held onto for years.

Finding a way to forgive and address the past will help you move forward with a healthy mindset.

Philippians 3:13 “Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead…”


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