Everyone knows someone who is a negative person.
They may call themselves “realists” or claim that they are just being honest, however they always bring down the mood in every room they enter.
Is this you? Do you find yourself always being cynical, even when you feel like you are in a good mood?
You must realize that very few people truly want to have ‘mood killers’ in their life!
If you have allowed negativity to overcome your life, you will notice that your mind never focuses on the positive things God has done for you.
Side Note: This does not apply to people who are going through a trial in life. Everyone has times when their spirits are low and they are in need of comfort and support.
Below are 9 surprising signs that you may be a negative person.
1.) Your Automatic Thoughts Are Always Negative
Scenario #1: A friend contacts you.
Your Response: “Oh great! What do they want this time?”
Scenario #2: You find out a friend got engaged.
Your Response: “Well, I hope it lasts! I give it 2 years.”
Scenario #3: Something amazing happens in your life!
Your Response: “I wonder when this is going to end. Good things never last long.”
Do you find that your internal dialogue is almost ALWAYS pessimistic?
Maybe you find yourself sighing for no reason – except for the fact that you are almost always thinking negative thoughts.
Your automatic thoughts often reflect how you see yourself! Do you think of yourself in a positive way or are you always tearing yourself down?
In return, these feelings are reflected in your everyday life and how you see those around you.
Take care of yourself and try to find ways to renew your spirit! Only God has the power to transform your life and mind in a permanent way.
Psalm 51:10 “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”
Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
2.) You Are Skillfully Sarcastic
Although sarcasm can be witty and fun, it can also be a form of misguided negativity!
Only you can truly know if your use of sarcasm can actually bring down your mood and create a cynical atmosphere in your conversation.
If your sarcasm turns into rude comments and mockery, you may be coming across as highly negative and toxic person to be around.
Be careful to not over-use your ‘special gift’ because you can cause deep hurt and pain in those you care about.
Don’t insert little side comments and give your “two cents” about what someone just said (sarcasm).
When used incorrectly, sarcasm can give you a reputation of being a very unkind person!
Proverbs: 12:18 “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
Proverbs 26: 18-19 “Like a maniac shooting flaming arrows of death is one who deceives their neighbor and says, “I was only joking!”
3.) You Are Bad At Accepting Compliments
Surprisingly, this does not always mean that you are shy or modest.
It can also mean that you have a negative attitude about yourself and the gifts/abilities God has given you.
When someone gives you a compliment, do you make a joke about it or blow it off with a lame excuse?
“Oh, you like my hair? But it looks awful today and it took me 5 seconds to throw up!”
“You are just being nice. I know my food usually tastes awful.”
Not accepting a compliment well can look negative, dismissive, and flippant.
Learn to say, “Thank-you for your kind words! I really appreciate that!”
“Thank-you! It has taken so much hard work, but praise God it all worked out.”
Accept compliments with grace and appreciation. Giving the glory to God is a wonderful way to accept a compliment!
James 1:17 “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”
4.) You Overuse the Word ‘But’
“That is so nice of her, but…”
“Oh, today was so much fun, but…”
Do you finish a positive remark with the word ‘but’? This turns your positive comment into a negative one!
You can find something wrong with every single thing in your life!
Throw this nasty little word out of your vocabulary for a little while. Practice not using it.
Let a positive comment remain a positive comment.
The people closest to you will notice this lovely, optimistic change in you!
Proverbs 17:22 “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
5.) You Don’t Really Have Any Life Goals
When you have goals and exciting plans, it is hard not to be excited and positive!
If your life lacks goals, you may have become a negative person without even realizing it.
At the end of the day, you find yourself sitting at home thinking negative thoughts about your life.
A lack of life goals is a double edged sword.
Why? Because a lack of goals causes negativity. And negativity gives you a dim view of the future.
God gave you an innate desire to dream and plan ahead! Asking for His will and His guidance is the best thing you can ever do.
His plan for your life is what you were created to do. You need some goals in your life!
Explore new skills and challenge yourself to do something you have always been interested in.
Sit down and evaluate your life. What are some God-given abilities that you have that you have never used?
Sometimes, you need to take a leap outside of your negative little bubble and create some life goals (while praying for God’s guidance).
In return, you will get some joy back into your life!
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
6.) You Focus on the Problem, Not the Solution
You could complain all day about the problems in your life.
But when it comes to finding a way to solve the problem, you aren’t anywhere to be found!
Many people need to talk through their problems. And sometimes, the solution is having someone patiently listen to your concerns.
However, most of life’s problems need a solution. And when you ignore the solution, negativity is always the result!
If you are in a relationship, this habit is probably a glaringly evident problem to your partner.
When you have problems in your relationship, you are amazing at pointing them out, but not finding a way to work them through.
Next time you have a big complaint, make the effort to think, “How will I get through this? What is a healthy solution to this life issue?”
Ask God for wisdom with the problem and seek advice from people that you trust.
If the problem is fixable, fix it! Stop stewing over something when you have the solution sitting right in front of you.
Philippians 2:14 “Do all things without grumbling or questioning…”
Proverbs 3:5 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.”
I Peter 4:9 “Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.”
7.) The Past Dictates your Future
Yes! The past has a huge effect on who you are now.
It can define much of your character and mold your strengths and weaknesses. (Although you can work on changing these later on.)
But it should not always dictate how you are going to live the rest of your life!
If the past is full of painful memories, you cannot allow those negative thoughts to overwhelm your mind.
Otherwise, you will severely limit yourself – never opening yourself up to experience new things, broadening your horizons, and seeing the blessings God has given to you.
Perhaps you need to go to counselling/therapy and receive some godly, professional advice on how to move past the hurt in your life.
Whatever your past holds, you cannot ruminate on your own failures or the hurt from others.
Otherwise, you will get locked in the vicious cycle of unhappiness and negativity – something Satan loves!
Isaiah 43:18-19 “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”
Philippians 3:13 “Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,”
II Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”
8.) You Worry – A Lot!
Many things in life can cause worry and anxiety. But does it control your life?
As in, every moment of every day, you could be worrying about something!
Perhaps your worry is a side effect of being emotionally and physically exhausted?
Perhaps you suffer from anxiety – something many people experience, but never properly address.
Your worry can come across as being severely negative and pessimistic.
If you allow this to control your life, worry will become a defining point of who you are. It will slowly take over your life and become a negative part of your character.
The Bible addresses worry and anxiety many times because we all experience it!
Praying for God’s peace, reading His Word, and focusing on Him can do wonders for the soul!
Sometimes, it is necessary to seek professional advice from a mental health specialist and/or a medical professional.
Whatever the case, always look to God!
I Peter 5:7 “Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”
Philippians 4:6 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.”
Philippians 4:7 “And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
9.) You Are Judgmental of Others
You know if you are judgmental or not. It is a defining part of your character.
If you are a negative person, you will probably find yourself being incredibly critical of others.
Is there a pattern of gossiping and tearing down other people behind their backs?
Do you make fun of how people look or what they post on social media?
Can you always find a way to twist a story or create drama out of nothing?
If this is the case, you probably have a hard time holding onto quality friends and creating successful relationships!
Being judgmental is a habit that you have created. But it is also a habit that only you can break!
If you focus on seeing the good qualities in others and not talking about people behind their backs, you will 100% see your relationships improve.
Negativity attracts negativity! And negative relationships are never healthy to be in.
Luke 6:37 “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven…”
Titus 3:10 “As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him…”
Psalm: 101:5 “Whoever slanders his neighbor secretly I will destroy. Whoever has a haughty look and an arrogant heart I will not endure.”
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If you see a pattern of negativity in your life, you need to pray for God’s help as you make conscious effort to change your ways!
Satan would love nothing more than to separate you from good people through your own bad habits.
Perhaps you need to call some old friends or meet up with some people who you have hurt and ask for their forgiveness.
In the end, the solution lies within you – with God’s help.