In the beginning stages of your relationship, you cannot get enough of each other!
In other words, you could talk for hours about anything and everything.
You ask each other dozens of questions, go out on dates, and try new and exciting things together!
But that is Stage #1 of most relationships.
As your relationship progresses, you enter into a new phase.
The love can be deeper, but the effort to continue bonding sometimes dwindles.
You need to put in the time and the effort to keep your love fresh and alive!
Below are 9 amazing ways to bond with your spouse.
1.) Put Your Phone Down and Listen
We live in a world where your phone can dominate your life!
You get sucked into an electronic world and miss out on so much of life that could be happening right before your eyes (if you’d take the time to look away from your phone).
Put your phone in another room or turn it off!
Don’t have it within arms reach because sometimes it is a habit to pick it up and look at it.
Then, give your spouse your undivided attention.
Ask them questions about their day and try to LISTEN and have a meaningful conversation.
Try to do this EVERY SINGLE DAY!
Otherwise, your life partner may start to feel like they aren’t your priority. Your phone is.
It’s a simple habit that can make a world of difference in your relationship.
2.) Find Out Each Other’s Love Language – and Fulfill It
If you have never heard about “The 5 Love Languages”, you absolutely need to make this a part of your life.
(Take this test and find out yours.)
To sum it up, we all feel loved in different ways.
The 5 most essential ways are through physical touch, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts, and words of affirmation.
Of course we love all these things! But usually, one or two of these things mean more to you than the others.
Do you absolutely love holding hands and snuggling up together? Do you love it when your partner does some household chores? Or would you prefer them to bring you home a lovely gift? Or perhaps you love it when they tell you how much you mean to them.
See how each of these “love languages” may mean more to one person than another?
Find out what both you and your partner’s love language is and start fulfilling it!
You never know, maybe you have been focusing on giving your spouse what YOU NEED, not what they need.
Find out each of your love languages here.
3.) Travel Somewhere Together
It doesn’t have to be a lavish vacation!
It can be a day-trip or a little weekend vacation.
Go online and search for some fun things to do on your travels.
There is nothing like sharing new experiences to breath some life back into your relationship!
Plus, a little vacation is a time to pause – and focus 100% on each other.
4.) Celebrate the Little Things
Life gets so busy that often, we forget to celebrate the little successes.
Whether you or your spouse accomplished a small goal, got a raise, received some good news, or just had a good day!
CELEBRATE IT!
(And sometimes, just surprise your spouse with a ‘just because I love you’ celebration.)
Go out for a dinner date or an ice cream cone!
Stop waiting for the major accomplishments to happen before you celebrate life.
You deserve to celebrate every success – no matter how small.
5.) Get Some Couple’s Counselling
Say what?!
Many people think, “Counselling is for people who are in a bad place in their relationship!”
Actually, it really isn’t!
Couple’s therapy can actually help you grow much closer.
A relationship counselor can show you how to talk through problems, communicate better, fulfill each other’s needs, and strengthen your bond.
If anything, it will help to prevent future problems in your relationship!
It is so much better to be proactive, then to wait for when your relationship is suffering to go to therapy.
Just a few sessions can go a long way.
Then, after each session, go out for a treat! Reward yourself for a job well done.
6.) Do Something New Together
This will take some effort on both your parts, but it will be worth it!
Go on Groupon and search for some fun things to do in your area!
Maybe this is a cooking class, dance lessons, a couple’s massage, or a sight-seeing tour.
Sometimes, we get LAZY when it comes to investing in fun times together.
Perhaps you should just start going for evening walks or weekend hikes!
Get out of the house and enjoy doing something – anything together!
7.) Plan a Week of Celebrating The Love of Your Life
Do everything they like for a whole week!
Make their favorite meals, give them a massage or a pedicure, get up early or sleep in on the weekend (whichever they prefer), make them breakfast every day, and treat them like the amazing person that they are!
Make them feel like they are the most important person in your life (which naturally they are)!
It should be like celebrating their birthday for 7 straight days.
There’s nothing like making your spouse feel adored and special to keep your bond strong.
Related Article: 7 Ways to Build up Your Husband
8.) Play Some Games Together
Indoor games or outdoor games – it doesn’t matter!
Playing games together isn’t just for kids. It’s important for adults too!
It can help you relax, unwind, and enjoy each other’s company.
If you’ve had a stressful day, it will get both your minds off of life an onto something fun and enjoyable.
Go online and invest in some board or card games.
Amazon.com for the win!
Sit down, play some games and reconnect and laugh (but don’t get too competitive).
9.) Relive Your Favorite Memories
The location you got engaged or the park you always use to go when you were dating.
Or maybe you always used to go out for icecream once a week.
Perhaps you had a favorite restaurant that you only go on special occasions.
You and your partner should relive some fun memories and go back to where it all began!
Reenact some of your best dates from the past.
When the past is full of good memories, bring them back to life and bring back the butterflies!
Related Articles:
- 9 Habits of Couples Who Stay Committed and Deeply In Love
- 7 Ways to Build up Your Husband
- 9 Things You Should Never Say To Your Significant Other
Life get’s busy for everyone.
But you can’t forget to nourish your relationship with your spouse!
You have to work to deepen the bond between each other, but a small amount of daily effort can go a long way.
Happy bonding!