Depending on your upbringing and the people you associate yourself with, you may find yourself struggling to figure out what it means to be a Christian Woman.
What is biblical womanhood and what did God intend for us?
One thing is true – He did not create us all alike! We do NOT fit into the same mold because He gave each of us distinct abilities, gifts, callings, and personalities.
Through His creation, He showed us that he loves diversification!
So why do so many Christian women compare themselves to others, doubt their callings, feel insecure in what God has called them to, and sometimes even force their own personal convictions on the women around them?
You may find yourself in a place where you are believing some damaging misconceptions about what God created you (as a woman) for!
Here are 7 lies you may have been told about being a Christian woman.
1.) Women are of less value than men
Many false religions have touted this false belief about women. Christianity is not one of them!
The Bible is very clear that men and women were created equal.
Although women have been unfairly treated throughout history, the Bible demands that women be treated with love, respect, and dignity.
God created men and women to each fulfill very distinct purposes on earth. These different callings and abilities do not mean that one has less worth than the other.
When sin entered the world, life got much harder for women. The Bible is full of examples of unfair treatment.
But look how Jesus treated women. His kind, respectful, and compassionate treatment was something they were NOT use to in their culture.
As followers of Christ, you should never believe that you are of less value than a man. We are equal in the sight of God – period!
2.) Christian Women are Easily Walked Over Because they’re suppose to be “Meek”
Perhaps you have heard the phrase, “Meek and quiet spirit” used in the context of women being quiet and not “getting in the way”.
Absolutely nowhere in the Bible does it back up this false and damaging concept!
God wouldn’t have been able to use many women in the Bible if they had this “lesser than” mentality.
Meekness is not a derogatory word at all. It takes strength to have meekness – a calm confidence that comes from your full trust in Christ.
The Proverbs 31 woman wouldn’t have had her own business and been out buying land!
Abigail’s life-saving negotiating skills would have never been put to any use.
Deborah certainly never would have been a Judge and leader of her people!
God created women to be smart, gifted, gutsy, brave, hardworking, and strong for a reason!
We are sometimes treated unfairly and life is not always easy. But there is nowhere in the Bible that God instructed a woman to be a “doormat” to be walked over.
3.) Why Get a higher Education When You Were Created to Be a Mom?
Yes, believe it or not, this false idea is still imposed on many women in the 21st century.
First of all, God created some women to be full-time “work at home” mothers – and that is a high calling!
Other women were called to be “work outside the home” mothers and their right and ability to do so is very important!
And other women were never created to be mothers! Their calling and worth is not downplayed by this – ever.
The Bible talks about the high honor and importance of motherhood. But it never says anything about women not getting a equal education.
Throughout history, a woman’s inability to get an education did nothing more than force her to work in filthy, dangerous, low-income positions.
A woman who had the ability to stay at home with her children (with no worry for her family’s provision) was a blessed woman!
As a Christian Woman, know that God gave you a brain for a reason! Perhaps God gave you a brilliant mind to change the course of your life and those around you (perhaps in a small or large capacity).
If you are living your life for Christ and seeking His will, He will show you your purpose. Ultimately, you were created to glorify God through whatever you do.
Proverbs 16:3 “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.”
4.) A Christian Woman’s Goal In Life Should Be Marriage
Some girls spend much of their youth dreaming of marriage and looking for “the one”.
This of course isn’t wrong! It’s a normal “hearts desire” for men and women alike.
However, if marriage is what your WORTH is wrapped up in, you have a very wrong mindset.
Whether you are single, dating, or married, God created you to glorify Him with your life.
The Bible talks about the benefits of being single and your ability to be independent and do more for Christ.
If a woman’s one goal in life is to get married, she may find herself wasting much of her God-given time and energy on something that won’t count for Christ.
Marriage is wonderful, but whatever life has in store for you – make sure you are focusing your hope on Christ alone.
5.) The godliest of Women dress old-fashion
Outdated fashion, no makeup, unstyled hair, old clothes, always standing out in public…
Is that what God intended for women to dress like? Did he say “Dress like 1940 for the rest of your life?” (Or whatever you have been told is how “godly women” dress).
The Bible talks about how women are suppose to dress – and nowhere does it say to look “super drab and outdated”!
It says not to be a “show off” and draw attention to yourself and your body. But it never said that you needed to look like Granny from the Beverly Hillbillies!
Remember, you represent Christ wherever you go! Your goal should be to dress in a way that represents and honors Him!
It is absolutely possible to dress in a way that represents a godly woman – and look like you belong in the 21st century.
6.) All Godly Women Should Be Alike
God convicts hearts in different ways and calls women to be different.
Our job is to point others to Christ – not tear down another Christian because they don’t believe in every single conviction we do.
When the Bible talked about encouraging younger women and sometimes confronting ungodly behavior, it wasn’t talking about imposing our personal beliefs (outside of Christ) on others.
This leads to a self-righteousness and ungodly arrogance.
Not every Christian woman will dress alike or act alike. Some women’s personalities are quiet and shy while others are bubbly and outgoing.
Again, God loves diversification and He created us all differently for a reason!
Glorify Him – don’t tear down your fellow sisters in Christ.
7.) Biblical Womanhood is About Finding My Purpose and Following Your Heart
The Bible dedicates a lot of time to discussing our purpose and calling.
We are suppose to commit our life and goals to Christ and live our life following the principles He has detailed in His Word.
Have goals? Commit them to Christ and work towards fulfilling them!
Have dreams? Pray about them! Ask God if they are His will for you!
Listen to your heart? Absolutely not!
The Bible is very clear about this principle.
Proverbs 28:26 “He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, But he who walks wisely will be delivered.”
Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?”
Matthew 15:19 “For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.”
Your heart will let you down if you decide to let it rule your life. Never “listen to your heart” without first committing your desires to him.
The Bible also says “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
God may give you what your heart desires, but always ask Him what His will is!
It is so easy to get wrapped up in what today’s culture says about our own worth and how we see ourselves.
But ultimately, the most important thing we can do in our life is to love the Lord with all our heart, read His Word, follow His commandments, and be the kind of woman the Bible says to be!
Have you been believing some lies about what it means to be a “godly woman”.
You are a valuable creation of God. You’re precious in His eyes. You are a daughter of the King!
Read His Word, trust Him, and live your life to glorify Him.