Most of us experience jealousy once in a while.
Without meaning to, you find yourself envying someone else’s lifestyle, belongings, good looks, relationships, etc.
“I wish I could have a life like her! Everything seems to go her way.”
“I work so hard and yet everyone else seems to be getting ahead quicker.”
“They can afford everything they want! Why couldn’t I have been born with a silver spoon in my mouth, too!”
If you allow these jealous thoughts to take over you heart and mind, you will live a life full of resentment and bitterness.
James 3:16 “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.”
It is in our nature to allow these toxic thoughts into our lives, but we can beat them if we CHOOSE to be contented with the life God has given us.
Below are 5 tips to overcome jealousy as a Christian woman.
1.) Get Off Of Social Media For a While
If you are prone to jealousy and comparison, social media is a hornets nest that keeps stinging you!
Every time you scroll through your social media feed, you are primarily seeing the “highlight reel” of everyone else’s life.
Happy relationships, expensive gifts, new vehicles, new homes, dream vacations, stylish outfits, flawless complexions, happy children, dream spouse, etc.
Secondly, you are shown advertisements that make you want more! Your “social media ad feed” knows what tempts you and it knows what you are currently interested in.
Modern day marketing is brilliant at making you feel like you NEVER have enough stuff and that you NEED to have the latest product or service.
If you find your jealousy getting triggered every time you are on social media, it may be time for you to take a break!
Deactivate your account and delete the app from your phone.
It will probably take 3-7 days for you to stop mindlessly clicking in the place where your social media app used to be. Why? Because you are breaking a bad habit – social media addiction.
Whatever you do, don’t let FOMO (fear of missing out) draw you back in. You aren’t missing out on anything that one of your friends can’t text you about.
After several weeks off social media, you will probably start to notice that your jealous feelings have subsided.
You aren’t giving yourself the opportunity to compare you life to everyone else’s “highlight reel” and filtered pictures.
You may find yourself wanting to stay off social media for a lot longer!
2.) Embrace a minimalistic mindset.
Minimalism is a trending lifestyle choice!
Many people are embracing minimalistic home decor, outfits, and overall lifestyle.
This lifestyle helps you focus on purchasing what you NEED instead of what you WANT.
Most people start off by going through all their belongings and getting rid of everything that they do not need – at least half of the things they own!
Stop keeping things because you are pointlessly attached to them. Throw out everything that you don’t use on a weekly basis (clothes, shoes, kitchen utensils, toys, childhood junk, etc.).
After you are done downsizing your personal belongings, start tackling your thought life!
Every time you see something that sparks jealous thoughts, think “Do I really need that to be happy?”
Do you need the latest fashion trends? They only last a year or so!
Do you need that high-end makeup? Drugstore makeup works just fine.
Why are you thinking about buying something just because your friend has it? You don’t NEED it!
Adopting a minimalistic lifestyle and mindset can help you become more contented with less.
As an added bonus, this lifestyle is actually biblical!
I Timothy 6:6-8 “Now there is great gain in godliness with contentment, for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content.”
3.) Start being intentionally Contented with Your Life
When you find yourself starting to feel jealous, intentionally start thinking about how blessed you are with that area of your life.
If your friend gets the car or home of your dreams, stop and thank God that you have a vehicle that works and a roof over your head. Millions of people would give anything to have the life you have.
If the guy you have a crush on starts dating someone else, try to focus on the fact that he simply wasn’t the one for you and God is showing you that. Every time you feel jealous, intentionally thank God for showing you that he was not the right person for you. (Tough, I know!)
If someone goes on the vacation of your dreams, try to be genuinely happy for them. And if it’s something you would like to do some day, make it a goal and work towards it.
Whenever you start being jealous, STOP and look at your life. Don’t take your eyes off the blessings God has given you.
Be INTENTIONAL with your gratitude, thanking God for what you do have.
Luke 12:15 “And he said to them, “Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.”
4.) Choose Your Friends Carefully
Whether you have a dominating personality or not, you are impressionable!
The people who will influence your decisions the most are your closest friends. Choose them wisely!
You want to surround yourself with people who are kind, encouraging, generous, strong in their faith, and confident with who God made them to be!
You do not want friends who gossip, take far more than they give, and are never satisfied with what they currently have in life.
Do your friends encourage you to be contented and to count your blessings?
Or do they encourage you to constantly “treat yourself” with the latest trends, fashion, styles, and impulse items.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to stay up-to-date. But there is something wrong with never being contented with what you have!
Once you’ve bought the “one” thing you wanted, you will find yourself wanting something else.
Choose friends who build you up, just the way you are. You don’t need to buy anything new or change who you are to maintain your standing in the relationship.
Proverbs 13:20 “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”
5.) Pray Hard and Read Your Bible
This point may be last, but it is the most important tip on this list!
If you really want something in life, ask God for it!
Remember, God speaks through His Word! So read the Bible and quote Scripture verses to yourself.
Matthew 7:7 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.”
Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself in the Lord, and H will give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 21:22 “”And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”
Philippians 4: 6-7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
When you feel jealous, speak truth over your life.
This may sound funny, but drown out your thoughts by loudly quoting Bible verses or listening to worship music.
Only God has the power to affect your heart and mind, so that you no longer focus on what other’s have and instead focus on all the wonderful things He has given to you.
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